For so long I’ve talked (and whined and complained) about wishing I had more time to do “fun things”, that I almost missed an opportunity last week to create something imperfect.
One thing Zack is so good at doing — that I admire so much — is turning his cheek to the mess in order to spend time doing something he loves: the kitchen counter, the overflowing laundry basket, the messy entryway. And for a long time it kinda bothered me — made me a bit jealous even, that he could just look away. But I now see the value in what he can so easily do.
Something Zack has taught me through this perspective is that saying “no” to the mess means we can say “yes” to our list of fun things/ideas/dreams, and for me that has been learning embroidery. For years I’ve talked about wanting to learn (seriously), but the honest truth is I didn’t put any effort into actually learning.
Whenever Zack would sit down for some “fun time”, I felt jealous that he had the opportunity to do something for himself. Why couldn’t I look away from the messes and give myself some “fun time,” too? Certainly I can also turn my cheek?
So last week, when Maxwell was napping and Zack was pulling out his computer to play a game, Zack asked me what I was going to do for myself, and honestly I thought for a moment about a few house chores I could finish. But I made myself sit on the couch and work on this…
It’s absolutely imperfect, but it’s exactly the kind of imperfection I’ve been wishing I had more time for. And last week I made it happen.
I’ve never been a gal who feels guilty over sitting down to read a book or spending quality time with my girlfriends, but for some silly reason I didn’t give myself enough grace to turn my cheek more often and say “yes” to trying something totally new.
You probably noticed my stitches aren’t consistently tight. The cloud isn’t perfect. Are those French Knots, you may be asking yourself.
But the beauty is this project IS absolutely imperfect, and sometimes a little imperfection is all we really want anyway.
Do you long to create imperfection?
Here are some tips:
-Instead of saying “no” to a new idea, be brave and say “yes”
-Instead of starting over (and over and over and over), keep going and allow the mistakes to tell a story
-Instead of keeping your imperfections hidden in a drawer, share them with your people so they feel encouraged to accept imperfection, too
…and maybe your imperfection will transform to perfection.