For all of last week, Zack was in New York City producing a commercial. He left early Monday morning and returned Saturday just in time to have lunch with us. When he first mentioned the possibility of going on this trip I was immediately like, “Yes, go! What are the dates? I’ll put it on the calendar right now.” I knew he really wanted to go, and if he was happy about going then I’d naturally feel happy about him going (I kinda love that’s how our marriage works).
We had a great week, the kids, dog and myself. The days felt more like Zack was working late and wouldn’t be home before bedtime, which is at times frequent around here. Plus, no one over 2-1/4 years old had a meltdown ;) My friends kept checking in on us and I was thrilled to give them such a happy report every time.
Before Zack flew out on Monday, I made sure I checked off these five easy tasks:
1. I made sure the fridge & pantry were stocked. Milk, snacks, fresh fruit, breakfast, easy lunches and quick dinners were planned for. I also added any missing ingredients for homemade brownies and my favorite chocolate chip cookies to my shopping list.
2. All of our household necessities were purchased and ready to go. Because I didn’t need to amp up the Witching Hour simply from running out of diapers or toilet paper. No, ma’am.
3. Every day had at least one fun thing on the agenda. And most days I had two things planned (morning & late afternoon). We went to the park a couple of times, the beach with a group of friends, a local attraction (Travel Town for train rides), had a park play date, visited Target “for fun”, and hosted a play date. We baked brownies and chocolate chip cookies. We watched a movie after bath time, and I let the kids take extra long baths. Each night the kids went to bed clean, exhausted, and happy — every parent’s dream!
4. Our laundry basket was manageable from day #1. Even though I love doing the laundry (honest), I didn’t want to cognitively add anything to our week that would make me feel like I was losing my sanity. All week I kept the messes small throughout our apartment, and overall this helped in a huge way.
5. I kept a list of fun things to do myself once the kids were in bed. In the evenings I worked a little bit, read a little bit, and talked with Zack a little bit. Once I even went to bed early! On Tuesday I hosted a mini book club with Cristina once the kids were in bed. We discussed this book, which I absolutely loved because of the humor & quirk.
Some parts of our routine were hard to do with Zack gone, but I managed alright. Besides, sleeping in the middle of the bed because I could wasn’t a bad trade off ;)
Aside from all the fun things we did last week, I learned a lot about myself as a wife and mother while Zack was in New York. Things like, it’s not that hard to keep the little piles of “stuff” put away. Or, it’s OK to run into the grocery store at 5pm with both kids, you won’t lose any brain cells (I had been convinced I would). Or, you can handle gracefully taking care of the children full-time for six days and don’t need to remind your husband once he gets home just how much work you did for the family. There’s no need to keep score; we are in this together.
But my goodness, did we have a fun week with Zack gone or what? ;)